Grounding tips for anxiety

Anxiety can make you feel like you’re not in your own body. You can feel frozen in place, completely overwhelmed, and at the mercy of everything and everyone around you. Your nervous system is in havoc and it can feel totally debilitating. 

If you’re struggling right now, please understand that it’s your body communicating with you that something is out of alignment – and there’s a lot that’s within your control.

I want to share something that really helped me overcome my own anxiety. And that was realising that it’s not a lifetime sentence. Like most people, I used to believe anxiety was a disorder or an illness. I was even diagnosed with general anxiety disorder shortly after my mom died. (I’d had anxiety for most of my life, but it increased with the heavy grief I was navigating). When I started my own inner healing journey and researching more about the nervous system and ways to regulate it, I came to understand that anxiety is more of a physiological stress response. Some people also call it a very intense emotion, but I think it varies from person to person.

My point is, anxiety, like most other things we feel, are signals. They’re little nudges from our internal guidance system, aka the body – and the longer they go ignored, the louder they’re likely to become.

I overcame most of my anxiety through connecting inwards, with myself. I knew intuitively that there was more to the story than a “chemical imbalance” or “genetics.” I didn’t enjoy how anti-anxiety medication made me feel (like a walking zombie and so nauseous). When I started learning more about my nervous system and coming across emotions and childhood experts, like Dr. Gabor Maté, I realised that my anxiety actually stemmed from my childhood. That’s when I started doing inner child work. 

This helped me to understand that growing up walking on “eggshells” around an emotionally reactive parent can cause anxiety. In fact, it’s how many people develop anxiety – it’s often a physiological response to stress which can intensify with shocking life events, like losing a loved one. (It’s good to acknowledge the root cause while understanding that our parents were doing the best they could and likely dealing with their own inner wounds).

“Much of what we call personality is not a fixed set of traits, only coping mechanisms a person acquired in childhood.”
~ Dr. Gabor Maté

Grounding tools and techniques for anxiety

Besides inner child work, you can also try to relieve overwhelming worry or tension through simple grounding practices. When you’re feeling anxious, your mind is in overdrive thinking about the future and creating all sorts of unhelpful narratives. The key is quieten the mind and remind the body that it is safe. That YOU are safe. You do this by focusing on the present moment. Easier said than done, right? Well, if you look at how much noise and stimulation is constantly around us (or rather, what we allow into our day-to-day lives), it’s easier to notice how taxing that can be on the nervous system.

Our bodies are not designed for all of that inner disturbance.

(It’s why we get the signals).

We are made of energy and when we’ve got all of these things coming into our energy fields, it can literally feel like an attack on our bodies. To tame your anxiety, you need to make a conscious effort to bring more moments of quiet, calm and peace into your day. See where you can eliminate or minimise the noise (a good place to start is with your phone notifications). It takes practice, but I promise you, it’s doable! Here’s my go-to list of grounding tools and techniques for anxiety relief:

* The benefits of standing barefoot on the ground: We are bioelectrical by nature (made of energy), so when you put your bare feet on mud, sand or grass, you soak up the beautiful free electrons nature has to offer. It’s incredible and we don’t “recharge” nearly as often as we should with our man-made shoes. This is known as grounding or earthing and it has plenty of health benefits, like reducing stress, helping the nervous system calm down, and helping muscles to relax. What’s not to love? Get those shoes off! 

“I wish more people knew healing the nervous system is about being still. Laying in the sun. Being present while you eat your food. Listening to the sounds of nature. Letting your imagination run wild. Instead of more routine, the body needs less.”
~ Dr. Nicole LePera

Final thoughts

Life is hard for many people right now. And we’re living through a moment in our world’s history where so much is changing politically, economically, environmentally, etc. There’s a lot going on everywhere, in every country. Consciousness is rising, and that means a lot of heavy stuff is coming up for us all on an individual and a collective level. So please be gentle and take extra care of yourself. 

You matter. Your anxiety isn’t a life-sentence, I promise you. I understand some people may feel it necessary to have additional coping means for a while, especially during a particularly intense season in their lives. That’s okay. But please. Take it from someone who’s been there, there are ways to relieve and manage your anxiety without being solely dependent on external people or resources. It’s an inner job at the heart of it. Additional coping means are meant to be supportive to your healing journey, they’re not  meant to be the solution that prevents us from healing. And a lot of the time, they do. They can easily become a crux and very disempowering. 

Inner healing has been transformational for me, as has learning to naturally regulate my nervous system. And the journey continues! You are more powerful than you think you are. I encourage you to empower yourself where you can (and I believe you can!) Try these tips and see how that feels for you.

Sending you much love and healing energy.